Stepmom renovates spare room for her office, 16-year-old demands to use it as her bedroom: 'Her room is bigger than mine'

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  • A teenage girl compares sweaters on clothes hangers in front of a mirror in her bedroom

    A teenage girl compares sweaters on clothes hangers in front of a mirror in her bedroom

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  • In this story, a 16-year-old moved bedrooms in her dad and stepmom's house as a child, because she claimed she didn't like the space. After a few years, the stepmom decided to use her own money to renovate it and turn it into an office and library for her personal use.

    However, once it was finished, her stepdaughter decided that she wanted to switch back to this room for her bedroom. The stepmom didn't feel this was appropriate, as she already had her own space, but her husband was backing up his daughter. She wondered if she was in the wrong.

  • Am I overreacting for not wanting to give my step daughter the room I finished renovating?

    In 2017, my husband and I bought a house. Initially, Susan (now 16) was assigned to "room A." However, after a week of living there, she started complaining that she could hear every sound from our neighbor, who was partying a lot at the time. She also didn't like that her window faced a

  • forest, and besides the neighbor's house, all she could see was darkness and trees in night. We ended up moving her to "room B." Room A has been empty ever since, turning into a bit of a storage room.

  • At the end of last year I decided to take care of it and, using only my savings, I did a huge renovation - replacing the windows, soundproofing the walls, etc., etc. I also bought new furniture, painted the walls, laid a carpet, replaced the lamp, etc., etc. Now it looks like a very cozy library/office/living room. And I love it.

  • A teenage girl sits cross-legged on a bed, talking on video chat on her laptop

    A teenage girl sits cross-legged on a bed, talking on video chat on her laptop

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  • But Susan isn't happy, and as soon as I started renovating, she started demanding that I give her the room back. Suddenly, she started claiming that her own room was too small (it's bigger than mine and my husband's, and the same size as our other two children), that she hated that all she could see through her bedroom

  • window was a brick wall, and that it wasn't fair that I'd taken a room "for myself" that had its own walk-in closet and so on.

  • My husband is on her side, but I think it's unfair. My husband has two rooms. in the basement to himself, one he converted into a gym and the other into work office. Children (7F, 12M, and Susan) have larger rooms than us, and much of the garden and main living room are converted for their needs.

  • Furthermore, neither my husband nor Susan's mother paid a penny for the entire renovation. I did everything myself.

  • So I told my husband that if he cared so much, he should give Susan one of his rooms, but neither he nor Susan liked the idea, and now they're both mad at me.

  • A teenage girl lies on her bed with her legs on the wall, looking at her cellphone

    A teenage girl lies on her bed with her legs on the wall, looking at her cellphone 

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  • NegotiationLanky436 I think the bigger concern is...why does nobody seem to care that youre taking up as little space as possible, finally taking a room for yourself, and now being asked for more?

  •  why isnt your husband sticking up for you when you sunk your own money and time into this room (that she abandoned mind you) and now you suddenly have to give it back now that its nicer? Is he going to pay you back? Is he going to give you one of his rooms?

  • SlowYourRollBro There's not really a reaction here to be called "overreacting" but either way, no. I'd default to "No this is my office now. You gave up this room and now have your own." And every time she brings it up, "That question has already been asked and answered and is not up for discussion."

  • Top-Bit85 Think about it. Right now you have your room that you decorated, that you love and are happy to use. They are mad at you. If you give in, they will be happy (briefly) and you will be mad.

  • Isn't it better for them to be mad and you have your room? You know Susan will just find something else to moan about and her daddy will back her up.

  • YakCertain5472 Let them be mad. It doesn't sound like Susan will be happy no matter what, so keep the room for yourself. I agree with you, your husband should give her one of his rooms. NOR

  • Ok_Childhood_9774 Do not give in. This is space you spent significant time and money on. If your husband doesn't want to give up one of his rooms, and Susan doesn't like her own room, she can pitch a tent in the back yard.

  • KRabbit17 NOR. This child seems to play the game to get what she wants and dad lets her do it as long as it doesn't interfere with him at all. Offer to help renovate her room and have dad pay for it. If Susan isn't willing to help, then she doesn't get her "new" room.

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  • Treehousehunter If one of my kids pulled that kinda cr p, I'd not put up with it. Your husband is a crop parent.

  • MaryK007 That's your room. She can deal with what she argued for.

  • Dependant-Platypus82 NOR She wants the room because it's yours. Do not back down. Tell your husband they can fix up her current room and you will help or he can exchange it one of his.

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