Son uninvites mom from his high school graduation after she plans a Florida trip with her boyfriend and his kids during his graduation party

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    A young man graduates high school without his mother attending the ceremony.

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  • The young man in this story planned his graduation party a month after he graduated, but he didn't think that would mean that his own mother couldn't attend. When he found out that she planned a vacation with her boyfriend and her boyfriend's kids the weekend of his graduation party, he was understandably enraged. 

  • Am I the bad guy for telling my mom she's no longer welcome to attend my graduation?

    My graduation is in June, and I have a graduation party in July. My mom recently told me she cannot attend my graduation party but she will still be there for my graduation.

  • I learned she is missing the party because her boyfriend has suddenly scheduled a trip to Florida that week for them and his kids.

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    The Miami beach skyline and shoreline.

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  • He and I do not like each other and I very strongly believe he did this to intentionally screw me over.

  • So I told my mom if she is going to go play family with her boyfriend and his kids (not her kids btw) instead of going to my party then she can skip the graduation as well.

  • I have a limited amount of tickets to give out for attendance and I would rather give the ticket to someone who can make time for me.

  • My mom is crying over this and says I am being unfair and that her attending the graduation is important, but the party is just a bbq and there's no reason for her to be there.

  • Group of people standing around grill, chatting, drinking, and eating

    A group of people at a barbeque celebrating a high school graduation that happened a month earlier.

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  • She says we can do something together when she gets back. But I think she should be here for me to start with rather than going on a trip intentionally scheduled by her boyfriend when he knew there were already plans.

  • kidhalloween80 Wow and your mom was cool with excluding you on her birthday? Like she knew what he said and was like yeah?

  • ChannelGreat2791 Original Poster's Reply As tends to be the case we did something together later.

  • joviejovie Idk Not enough info here. In general no. But I wanna know more about the bf setup Has she picked him over you before?

  • ChannelGreat2791 Original Poster's Reply He and I do not get along. He is very clear from when they started together that I am not his son and not his responsibility. So like if I go to visit with my mom and my mom wants to leave the house I must go with her because he does not want me there without her. She had to change her custody with my dad because she could not keep me on days where she also worked. And he does not let me attend trips and events that he pays for. An example is back in Janu

  • Modernbluehairoldie Info how much time is there between the graduation and the party, and when is the party exactly? And are you American? Because if your graduation is at the end of June and you're having your party the following weekend then you're inconvenient but not an AH. Sometimes the natural timing of things works that way. On the other hand, if your graduation is at the beginning of June, and you are deliberately waiting for your party to hijack everyone's Fourth of July weekend, then y

  • ChannelGreat2791 Original Poster's Reply The party is on July 18 which is a saturday. It is a few weeks out because there are many other parties happening that I did not wish to conflict with. Yes I am American. My party date was decided in February. My moms boyfriend decided on this trip two weeks ago and they are leaving on the thursday before my party and coming back on the next thursday.

  • Abject_Code5523 ESH, why is the party so much later? I get being upset but normally graduation parties happen when you actually graduate.

  • ChannelGreat2791 Original Poster's Reply There are many parties and I did not want to conflict with them. Also it is when my grandparents could fly in to be part of it.

  • dzbuilder You're being petulant and assuming malice on the boyfriend's part.

  • ChannelGreat2791 Original Poster's Reply He and I do not have a good relation. He made my mom change her custody for me when they moved in together because he did not want me there while mom was working at all. Also he has said I am not his family and so I am not allowed to where he pays for or plans. Like he would not let me go to my moms birthday dinner that he planned but he took his kids. Also my party was announced in February. He made this trip plans two weeks ago and is leaving 2 days bef

  • TurnipMountain7497 NTA Not the AH at all. I'm glad you actually had a backbone and stood up for yourself unlike so many posts on this sub. If your mother can't prioritize her child's graduation, every part of the graduation, then she doesn't deserve to come. And it might have been. understandable if she was skipping the party for something actually serious, but a Florida trip?? seriously? Moreover, your grad date must have been told to her way before the trip was planned, so again, she should ha

  • Still_Condition8669 Also adding that my ex husband and I started dating around the time that his youngest baby girl was going on her senior trip cruise that he was taking her on with a couple of her friends and her other siblings (2 boys) and grandma. He wanted to call the whole thing off because it was too late for me to go. I told him absolutely not, that this trip was about celebrating his daughter's achievement and that they needed to go as a family and have a great time, without me. They di

  • Conclusion Unusual320 NTA tell her either way this isn't your problem, as she's showing where her priorities lay. 1) he either booked the dates without discussing with her first and on finding out she should've told him to amend them; or 2) they did discuss the dates and she said yes.

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