Overworked employee puts in 3 month notice at job of 4 years, manager tries to guilt her into staying in the job: 'It is not about finances, just about morals'

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  • A female employee sitting at meeting table with a tablet looks to the side as she holds her phone

    A female employee sitting at meeting table with a tablet looks to the side as she holds her phone

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  • Assuming a person gets the privilege of deciding for themselves when they want to leave a job, they are going to want the process to happen as smoothly as possible. Giving notice can be stressful, and there are often many different things that need to be put in place before somebody has the freedom to leave (or at least, that is what management likes to tell us). A little tact can go a long way.

    It is unfortunate that some bosses are not good at coping with the loss of an employee. Hiring may be a pain, but it is an inevitable part of working in a functioning company. No matter what we might like to think of our skillsets, we are all, to a degree, replaceable.

  • My boss doesn't want me to leave work?

    Hi, this is my first post here, I hope it goes well. My boss has an issue with me leaving work.

  • I have been working for her and another boss for roughly 4 years, we never had any problems/disputes, our relations were good.I statistically do more hours than the rest of the people who are employed, maany more hours, I also used to go out of my way, by doing things that are not my responsibility, but help the company, at the time I didn't mind, it was satisfying to me.

  • Due to this- good relations "taking care" of extras I thought the transition would be smooth, I have a 3 month leaving notice on my contract.

  • When an employee who had spent four years with a company decided that it was time to leave, her boss had other ideas. She was ready to give the 3 months' notice that her contract required, and texted her manager about it beforehand.

    She insisted on meeting with her before she made the move, and spent a significant amount of time trying to convince her to stay. The employee felt that continuing with the role would not be in her best interests, but was afraid of facing more serious consequences if she went ahead with her decision to quit the job.

  • Ive texted my boss before handing in my resignation, and she replied saying that she is shocked, and not to hand in the resignation before we talk, I said ok, I had 4 things to talk about more in terms of clarity and being on the same page.

  • The 3 of us agreed to a meeting online. 10 min before one of my bosses texts me, saying she is going to be around 15min late and that the other boss will be not be attending.

  • A female employee sitting at a meeting table with a tablet looks towards a female coworker who is talking

    A female employee sitting at a meeting table with a tablet looks towards a female coworker who is talking

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  • I waited, and was shocked, thinking the conversation will be smooth and logical. My boss started saying that she is shocked and upset and froze whenever she saw the message, that I want to resign, and it is not empathic of me, and this behaviour isn't what she is used to, she said to her communication is vip and kept asking why didn't I talk to her before.

  • I replied, saying 3 months is agreed on the contract, she said yes but honesty is more important and valued in this workplace.

  • I won't reply the whole conversation but it was long, felt one-sided, manipulative and at times intimidating.

  • For example my boss spoke badly about a past employee using her first and second name, saying how she used them instrumentally, and got a second job (this was not the only thing she said about her).

  • She asked me several times why am I leaving and, why didn't I tell them before, where I always had the same answer (im overworked, i do have a second job that is closer to my house, and pays more, I also had health issues that I spoke about half a year ago), when I confronted her saying, that Im allowed to leave and I didn't know that my leaving would so drastically change the company's earning and I understand that she is angry for not letting them know earlier, she denied it, saying no no it i

  • After the conversation she sent me a long message, then edited it, I did not reply.

  • It was mostly repeated stuff she said during the convo, that my behaviour is out of place she is suprised, but now it is ok.

  • I keep thinking about everything, I plan on handing my resignation letter tomorrow. I didn't want to burn any bridges, but maybe they weren't built in the first place.

  • lam afraid of further consequences, mostly passive-aggressive remarks towards me, and speaking badly about me to others, which of course is not something I have control over.

  • It is also upsetting since from the start I was helping them a lot. Any comments or suggestions would be welcome, I guess lam looking for some support or tries at explanation.

  • A female employee sitting at a meeting table with a female coworker covers her mouth as she laughs

    A female employee sitting at a meeting table with a female coworker covers her mouth as she laughs

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  • auditor2 Stick to your guns. Document the missed meeting. Schedule another immediately. Include the questions you want answered. Keep the conversation professional and don't get distracted by the drama. Make it clear you are honoring the contract and do intend to resign Start documenting all management interactions..the bs is probably not over

  • CoolZookeepergame265 Original Poster's Reply lam already screenshotting, and documenting whatever is possible. Im trying to stay grounded but sadly, I think the bs is probably just starting. I also know the woman that was spoken about badly, left work with the help of lawyers, but I don't know any details. It might be time to break my piggy bank for legal support

  • brainybrink What do you think you need legal support for? What damages are there. She sounds like a passive aggressive piece of work, but being ride isn't illegal.

  • CoolZookeepergame265 Original Poster's Reply I don't know yet, I know the other woman needed lawyers for leaving work, I don't know the details, they might have acted as a support system as communication from the management went to them, not to the worker. Iam aware that being passive aggressive is not a crime, but based on the involvement before I assume they were needed. I will probably find out soon, if this is just my fear, or something that is realistically needed.

  • SpaldingPenrodthe3rd The boss is upset that you won't be around to do the extra unpaid work. Don't let the boss's b.s get to you. People quit jobs for various reasons why is she pretending to be shocked ?? Seems more like manipulation.

  • CoolZookeepergame265 Original Poster's Reply I have been thinking why I seem to be a target. I've spoken to a few people (4, waiting on a call back from a 5th one) that have resigned in the past 12 months, I didn't disclose any details but asked them if they had any trouble or difficulties leaving, all of them so far, said no. But they were people who worked significantly less hours on average, not taking into account any extra tasks, they've also worked for a shorter amount of time, did not tak

  • PauPauRui Just start calling out using sick time. Stress leave works well.

  • MechanicalBotantical I've had similar experiences, feels like gaslighting. I don't know who needed to hear this today but jobs don't give a sh about you or your needs.

  • DistinctGrand519 The company does not own you. Laying on guilt is just disgusting manipulation. Submit your resignation in writing. Once you are free of them, your soul will soar.

  • OpeningLong4746 Girl, get OUT. do not try to massage her/their feelings. Just get through and get out.

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