Entitlement doesn't stop in families. If anything, it gets worse. Your supposed loved ones believe that your emotional proximity to them and the fact that you share DNA mean that they can walk all over you without your protestation. Now, we know that morally, this is completely untrue. Does this prevent entitled family members from carrying out their entitled actions? Absolutely not!
How do you cope with the realization that your parents believe they are more worthy of certain things than you are? Aren't all parents supposed to want the absolute best for their children? The whole "respect your elders" schtick is inherently problematic because it doesn't account for the fact that people younger than said "elders" are, in fact, also deserving of respect. Who knew? You want to believe that your parents respect you, but entitled behavior and one-way advantageous relationships at the expense of their children's happiness cannot coexist with respect.
At the end of the day, you can't force a family member to respect you, or anyone at all, really. Respect is earned, and if a set of parents believes that you are undeserving of respect despite having been a stellar child, then that's that. No more Mr. Nice Guy, and no more master bedroom.
Below, a daughter shares a story about how she is graciously allowing her parents and younger brother to move in with her, her husband, and their newborn daughter while her parents' new home is built. Though charitable, this is worrying for many reasons. Parent-child relationships seldom thrive in close conditions, especially when it's clear that the parents in question act like they are worth a million bucks and their daughter pales in comparison. They insist that they take the woman and her husband's master bedroom, and even go so far as to call her disrespectful when she refuses to give in.
What would you do in this situation? Would you still allow your parents to live in your home for a year and a half, or would you demand respect through a withdrawal of your initial offer? Scroll below to read the full story.
.png)
5 months ago
37



English (US) ·