Daughter plans to “strategically” abandon father in his old age after he destroyed her plants, which acted as the last straw

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• AITH For planning to strategically abandon my father in his elderly age because he destroyed my plants?

  

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• The man in this story is not a caregiver, he is a permanent tenant in other people’s lives. He drifts through chunks of his children’s childhood both present and absent at the same time, showing up just enough to hurt, disappear long enough to starve, and reappear just in time to treat the family like a service with a subscription he never pays. His wife pays for rent, for his travel, for his sons’ tuition, while he harvests profit, violence, and a sense of absolute rule. He beats his pregnant wife, leaves his family outside in the cold, and performs all of this cruelty like it is divine order instead of basic cruelty. By the time he comes around to cut down a grown‑up child’s garden because breakfast got delayed, he is not doing anything new, he is just swapping targets.  

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• The garden is the only interesting part of this story because it is the first thing in years that belongs entirely to the person sharing it. It is not a business to be stolen, it is not a child’s body to be hit, it is not a woman’s labor to be taken for granted. It is tiny, fragile, and grown on barren land, which makes it the perfect metaphor for what self‑love looks like after neglect. When the father cuts it down, he is not accidentally stepping on grass, he is trying to prove that he still owns the space around the family member he raised. 

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• The decision to abandon him in his old age is not some dramatic twist, it is the quiet fallout of a long process. The logical middle ground many people cling to usually does not account for someone who has spent decades weaponizing family loyalty while refusing to reciprocate it. The difference here is not that the person is unusually cruel, it is that the parent has spent a lifetime proving that the relationship is not a two‑way street. In that kind of context, DNA is not a moral obligation, it is just a reminder of damage that was never repaired.

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