Couple reveals that their wedding is fake by announcing they have been secretly married for years, family and friends protest: ‘We were lied to’

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  • Bride and groom holding hands during a wedding toast.

    Bride and groom holding hands during a wedding toast.

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  • I'm pretty shook up about this, still. I attended my brother's wedding around 3 months ago.

  • Everything seemed normal. Nice wedding. Lots of people traveled a long way. The only thing that felt "off" to us was the actual ceremony.

  • My brother had told us that they had two pastors back out on them due to "schedule conflicts" and they had to get their friend to get an online license and marry them.

  • It seemed really bizarre at what was an otherwise pretty well done wedding. The vows also seemed off.

  • Stuff was absent from the vows. We didn't know why (at the time). We assumed maybe their friend just forgot because he was nervous.

  • Fast forward to the reception. Around an hour into that, my brother played a video for everyone which revealed that they had done a courthouse wedding 2 years prior.

  • For some strange reason, they never told anyone. We were all just finding out. They didn't have a good reason why.

  • They just said "we woke up that day and decided to get married." People were incredibly confused.

  • wedding ceremony of newlyweds on the pier.

    wedding ceremony of newlyweds on the pier.

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  • Older people in the room were asking people what was going on. It was just so so crazy.

  •  "Okay, so cool?!" Later, my brother's wife was asking my parents what they thought of the "wedding" and they both said "well...it was really nice...but we would have liked to know it wasn't a real wedding beforehand." The bride FREAKED and basically threw a tantrum right there in front of everyone.

  • Stuff got ugly. My brother yelled at them and said they ruined the whole evening. A lot of people frankly left after the big reveal.

  • You could tell that it made EVERYONE uncomfortable. My parents apologized a week later for what they said at the wedding but they told my brother that they still were upset that they were lied to for 2 years.

  • When I get married, I can assure you everyone I love will know about it. It won't matter if the ceremony takes place in a courthouse or a beautiful venue, I have no intention of lying to anyone about when the “real” wedding takes place. And you can be sure that I won't hide it for more than maybe a couple of hours.

  • My brother is currently barely speaking to them because he claims "They did nothing wrong and people are wrong to be angry about it." Brother might be a narcassist, BTW.

  • This opened my eyes to that.

  • LVMom I wonder if your parents were more upset about the idea that they had been married two years without telling them than the actual wedding. I would be ped off if one of my children got married and didn't bother to tell me for two f years ng

  • OP Big Elk5863 This. It was this.

  • OverallResolve You're making a lot of assumptions here. There are many reasons why they might have done this where they wouldn't want to tell people, like parents interfering or whatever. I also don't know why you'd think they would be laughing behind people's backs - there's nothing in the post that suggests they just did it to get back at people or whatever.

  • OP Big_Elk5863 OP here. We were never given a good reason, and I can't think of one. They told my mom at one point that they were afraid if they told her they eloped that she would be "upset." My mom said "I'm way more upset that you did it and then lied for 2 years. That's way worse."

  • Acrobatic_Drag_4172 Getting married legally before your actual wedding is not weird. People do it all the time for taxes, health insurance, or because they feel like it. Announcing it to everyone at the wedding is definitely weird. It's your business, keep it to yourself...

  • Academic_404 I think I wouldn't care if I was a casual friend or distant relative, but I'd be upset that my kid or sibling lied to me two years about this.

  • joeltheconner I have been in and/or photographed five different weddings where the couple did this. It's been awkward every single time. It never goes over like the bride and groom expect. They think everyone's going to think it's awesome and hilarious and oh so much fun, but everyone feels tricked and manipulated. Don't do this people. Don't do it.

  • _Torpedo Vegas_ My wife and I had a courthouse marriage because otherwise we couldn't get her into my health insurance, but we had planned a wedding within the next few months. I didn't feel like we were doing anyone any harm.

  • cakivalue Where your brother and his wife went wrong was in telling their guests and showing the video. They didn't owe that information to anyone and should have expected that people would react badly as this is a topic a lot of people have really big feelings about. There is nothing wrong with a legal ceremony directly before or years before a formal wedding ceremony or religious ceremony but waiting until the other ceremony to reveal it is a wild choice because people are going to feel upset

  • mikezillabot I had friends who did this. We were happy for them. Who cares if they had a secret courthouse ceremony previously, they wanted to do a public wedding with friends and family involved that just happened later.

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