Aunt tries to change career of 24-year-old data analyst, gets offended when he rejects her suggestions: 'If my job is so simple, then you should be the one doing it'

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  • A businesswoman holding a large notebook points upwards with a marker pen

    A businesswoman holding a large notebook points upwards with a marker pen

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  • A young data analyst for a logistics firm was enjoying the career he had chosen, but his aunt felt like he was not doing something that was the right fit for him. Despite the fact that there was room for progression, she thought he should be doing a job that had more traditional prestige. She constantly sent him links to job openings in sales that she thought would be a better fit for him.

    The employee reached his limit when he was working from home, and his aunt interrupted him to say that she had talked to a recruiter who had a negative view of logistics. He lost his temper, which led to her getting upset. He wasn't sure who was in the wrong.

  • My aunt won't stop fixing a career she doesn't even understand

    I (24M) work a pretty standard 9- to-5 as a Junior Data Analyst for a logistics company.

  • It's an average office job, I handle spreadsheets, track metrics, and I've actually been teaching myself PHP on the side to build an internal portal that automates our onboarding and offboarding.

  • It's a solid path, and I'm proud of the work I'm doing. The problem is my Aunt, to her, if you aren't a manager or a director with a company car, you're basically just a temp.

  • She has this exhausting habit of intervening in my life based on absolutely zero information. This happens every single day, she'll text me links to entry level sales roles or call me to say her neighbor's son is a brand ambassador and could get me a job that is actually talking to people.

  • She doesn't ask how my projects are going, she just assumes I'm stuck because she doesn't understand what data analysis is.

  • A businesswoman crosses her arms while holding her glasses, standing in front of a couch and a table with a laptop on it

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  • Yesterday afternoon, it finally boiled over. I was just hanging out in the living room, trying to get some work done on my laptop while my sister sat nearby scrolling through her phone.

  • She walked in, saw my screen, and sighed. She said that she was just talking to a recruiter at my gym earlier and that logistics is a de d sector for staff so she took the liberty of sending her my LinkedIn.

  • I tried to be nice. "Aunt Sarah, I'm building an automation system for a multi-million dollar firm.

  • I'm not looking to be an assistant. I'm on a development track." She didn't even blink.

  • She actually walked over and stood between me and the TV. She said that I shouldn't be so defensive and I am just a kid so I don't see the big picture.

  • She also said that I am just wasting my twenties in a back room. She kept going for ten minutes, lecturing me about potential while my sister just watched the drama unfold.

  • I'd had enough so I closed my laptop and stood right in front of her "If my job is so simple that I should quit it to go show houses for a realtor, then you should be the one whose doing it." The room went de d silent.

  • She ended up storming out, claiming I had attacked her for just being a caring aunt.

  • Was she really just being a caring aunt and I was a j snapping at her? for

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  • FlatSyllabub4667 next time she sends you a link to a brand ambassador gig, send her back a link to a Udemy course on data analytics for beginners. fight petty with helpful yet deeply insulting.

  • BackgroundCareful779 the you're just a kid line is the ultimate 50 yr old power move when they lose an argument.

  • Muted_Memory_9540 it may sound harsh but she needed to hear that from you or it will never end

  • Flounder Thick4247 watch until that php portal goes live and you get that first mid level bump. suddenly aunt sarah will be telling everyone she mentored you into success.

  • lowfreq33 Brand ambassador? Like handing out samples at Costco?

  • EmploymentGreen6370 NTA. Caring doesn't look like dismissing your career and pushing you into jobs you didn't ask for. That's not advice, that's control

  • Puzzled_Substance93 NYJ..Your aunt clearly doesn't respect your career or your choices, and constantly pushing you into jobs you don't want is overstepping. Standing up for yourself was fair.

  • keishajay NTJ but I'd suggest grey rocking her and giving no reactions to what she says in future so it's as boring as possible for her.

  • Greedy_Elevator_3099 Your aunt has zero clue what she's talking about and you handled it way better than most people would have. Building automation systems is legit technical work and she's out here trying to get you to be a brand ambassador like that's some kind of upgrade The fact that she went behind your back to send your LinkedIn to some rando recruiter without asking is crossing a major line - there not just being caring, that's straight up disrespectful of your career choices

  • Soft Shallot8878 You weren't the j you set a boundary after months of her bulldozing over yours. The fact that she stormed out instead of apologizing tells you everything. Caring listens controlling dictates. You're doing great.

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