Aunt asks her brother and sister-in-law for child support after raising their 17-year-old daughter since she was 3: 'Neither of them provide financial support.'

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  • An aunt and her niece embracing each other

    Aunt hugs her beloved niece, whom she has been raising on and off since she was 3-years-old.

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  • The parents in this story have shown nothing but disinterest in their daughter for her entire life. Her paternal aunt has raised her most of her life without so much as a cent from her parents. Now that she's 17, her aunt is fed up with allowing her parents to get away with abandoning her without any resources.

  • Am I the bad guy for filing for child support on my 17-year-old niece (against both of her parents)?

    I've been raising my 17 year old niece fulltime for a while now. She lives with me and doesn't stay anywhere else except the occasional sleepover with friends.

  • This wasnt a formal court ordered situation but CPS has been involved and removed her from her moms care multiple times in her life.

  • She was unofficially placed in my care. Since then, I've taken on all of her day to day needs like housing, food, school, transportation, and all of that.

  • A box of school supplies

    School supplies that the aunt bought for her niece. 

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  • Both of her parents, my brother and her mom, are alive. Neither of them provide financial support.

  • My brother is working but has refused any help, even something small. All ive asked from him is 100/week.

  • The only thing he has given me is silence, yet him and his wife just got a new home.

  • A man holding a woman up in the air.

    Deadbeat dad lifts up his wife after purchasing a new house with her.

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  • My nieces mom is also not contributing at all but she cant hold down a job to save her life.

  • On top of that, I'm helping take care of my own mom, who recently got incredibly sick and can no longer work.

  • Before she got sick, she actually helped financially support my niece a lot, so losing that income has made things significantly harder.

  • Because of all of this, I recently filed for child support against both parents. Her mom is extremely upset and says I'm a huge ahle for doing this when my niece is so close to turning 18.

  • She also thinks I'm only doing this to use the money to take care of my mom, which isn't true.

  • My goal is to be able to cover household expenses more comfortably and make sure my niece has what she needs without constantly struggling.

  • I feel conflicted. On one hand, I feel like I shouldn't have to force her parents to help support their own child.

  • On the other hand, I know there really is no other way to hold them accountable to their responsibilities.

  • AITA for filing for child support this late, even though I've been the one raising her?

  •  Mom was in prison when she was 3- 13. Her dad was prison from the time she was 10 till just last December.

  •  typos

  • North81 Girl I don't get why this wasn't an automatic thing enforced by a court many years ago

  • Phoenix92885 Original Poster's Reply There wasnt an official court order for it. Anything we needed handled, my moms grandparents rights got us through so we didn't need to go to court to make this official. Trust me, younger me wishes I talked her into it. She did collect TANF for a short time. I would do things a lot differently now if I could turn back time.

  • flowerybutterfly96 Explore legal guardianship. Then you should be able to get aid. Call asap.

  • Phoenix92885 Original Poster's Reply thank you ill look into.

  • quarantina_ NTA but I'm wondering if you will get any money from them, considering they don't have any means to sustain themselves.

  • Phoenix92885 Original Poster's Reply The mom probably wont have anything but the dad would, working is part of his parole stipulations. Him and his wife just got a new home together. They got married while he was in prison and are in a rush to go play house while ignoring his other responsibilities. Both my nieces parents are on parole so they arent going to like it if it effects their freedom.

  •  even if she's almost 18 they should pay you for the time you took care of care. but yes. sometimes we do have to force parents to take care of their children, sadly. curious how long has she been with you?

  • Phoenix92885 Original Poster's Reply Shes pretty much always been with me or my mom since she was 3. My brother won custody when the mon went to prison and then just left the rest up to us. There were times when he tried to take her with him when he moved out of my moms but it never lasted more than a month or two. He was not very involved and was usually trying to play house with another female. Let's just say, i made her laugh for the first time as a baby, her entire kindergarten class called

  • MalibuBon NTA. I think there is a way to get paid as a caretaker for your mom by Social Security. If she has a case manager you could ask them. As far as your niece's situation, find out about if there's a local free or low cost attorney for family issues. Ask Google, enter your zip code + low income legal assistance. Every little bit helps when you're trying to save money.

  • Phoenix92885 Original Poster's Reply I may have access to one at work that im going to inquire about tomorrow!

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