7-year stay-at-home mom refuses to cover her fiancé’s personal debts to his grandparents, ignores his family’s demands she use her first paycheck after returning to work to pay them back for him

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• AITAH for refusing to use my income to pay back my fiancés debts to his family?

  

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• The stay-at-home-mom guilt is real and understandable, but worth examining carefully. Raising a child full-time while a partner works is labor with economic value. The mutual decision to have her stay home saved the family money on childcare costs that would have wiped out a full salary anyway. She did not sit at home doing nothing while her fiancé struggled. She contributed in a different form, one that the grandparents are now retroactively refusing to count because it suits the narrative they are building.

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• But hat’s actually happening here is that his grandparents are holding him accountable through her, which is both unfair to her and a way of avoiding a direct conversation with their own grandson about money he borrowed and has not repaid. She is not the debtor in this situation. She is just the easier target, which is not the same thing at all.

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