27-year-old daughter stops sending parents $400 monthly after she finds out it's going to her brother and not them: ‘My parents have been supplementing his rent, his groceries… with my money’

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  A senior woman holds a debit card in her hand as she speaks on the phone with someone.

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• When you lend money to family, or rather, “donate” money to family, you're signing up for a transaction of sorts. They say they'll use the funds for “xyz,” and you continue giving it to them so long as they need it. Seems like a fair deal.

  What happens if they use the funds for something else? Well, depending on what it is, you might not have given them the money in the first place if they had told you the truth. It's a bit manipulative, huh?

• "AITA for stopping my monthly transfers to my parents after finding out where the money actually goes?"

  

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• The woman's parents went behind her back because they didn't have the funds to support their son, so they had their daughter support him under the guise of financial hardship. This is inherently manipulative, and honestly, could be grounds for a lawsuit. I'm not a lawyer, but something about this seems fishy…

  The fact that her parents refused to tell her until she pressed them about it reveals just how far they're willing to lie so they can get their way. I wouldn't be surprised if they were lying to their son about where the funds are coming from, too.

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• What would you do in this situation? As the daughter, she likely feels exceptionally betrayed by her parents, who used medical issues to wring money out of her budget. She wasn't required to share her wealth; she chose to. Out of the goodness of her heart. Now, she's taught that her kindness could be taken advantage of by the people she should trust. Lead by example, parents. And not this kind of example.

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