26-year-old girlfriend pays her unemployed boyfriends rent for 4 months, discovers he got a 6-month severance package worth thousands of dollars

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  • Boyfriend sits on the couch playing video games while his girlfriend works hard, making extra money to pay his rent.

    Boyfriend sits on the couch playing video games while his girlfriend works hard, making extra money to pay his rent.

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  • Am I the bad guy for completely cutting off my boyfriend after draining my savings to pay his rent for 4 months?

    I (26F) have been dating my boyfriend (28M) for about two years. We dont live together, but we spend a lot of time at each others places.

  • About 4 months ago, he called me having a total panic attack. He said his company was downsizing and he got laid off effective immediately.

  • He was terrified of getting evicted because he did not have much in his savings. I love him and could not stand seeing him so stressed, so i offered to cover his rent until he got a new job.

  • And he promise to pay me back. Paying two rents has been an absolute nightmare. I completely drained my emergency fund.

  • I stopped hanging out with my friends, canceled all my subscriptions, and took on extra weekend shifts just to make sure both of our apartments were paid for.

  • Meanwhile, half the time I'd come over exhausted after a 12 hour shift, he'd be lounging on the couch with his friends, blasting away with rocket launchers in some retro 90s RPGs and drinking alc drinks. ic

  • When I'd ask how the job hunt was going, he get super defensive, saying the market is trash right now and he just needed a break for his mental health.

  • I felt horrible for pushing him, so i backed off and just kept working myself to the bone to support us.

  • Last weekend, i was at his place using his laptop to order us some food. A discord notification popped up on the screen from one of his old coworkers.

  • I know snooping is bad, but i could not help but read it. The message said something like, must be nice chilling at home enjoying that fat severance package bro.

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    26-year-old woman snooping on her boyfriend's computer, not knowing she's about to find out his nefarious secret. 

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  • I felt my stomach drop. I immediately confronted him about it. He got really pale and finally admitted the truth.

  • He did not just get laid off with nothing. He actually took a voluntary buyout from his company and got a 6month severance package.

  • He has been sitting on thousands of dollars this entire time, playing video games with his buddies, while watching me stress cry over my bank account.

  • When i asked him what the h The was thinking, he actually had the nerve to say he wanted to save his money to buy a new car later this year.

  • A black Jeep Wrangler

    A new car, bought with the sweat and tears of the owner's girlfriend.

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  • He said since i generously offered to help with his rent, he did not think it was a big deal to let me pay so he could build his savings.

  • I completely lost my mind. I told him we are done, took my spare key back, and demanded he pay me back every single cent I spent on his apartment over the last 4 months.

  • He told his family and our mutual friends that im aj for breaking up with him so suddenly and leaving him high and dry for next months. rent since i refuse to pay it.

  • A couple of his friends are actually taking his side, saying i offered the money voluntarily and im overreacting by demanding it back.

  • I feel so used, but all the messages calling me selfish are starting to mess with my head.

  • Am I the j here? TL;DR: I worked crazy hours and drained my savings to pay my boyfriends rent for 4 months because he said he was broke.

  • Found out he was hiding a huge severance package and just chilling at home playing video games so he could save up for a car.

  • I dumped him and demanded my money back, and now his friends are calling me a j

  • FortuneElectronic834 e. He You are absolutely not the j This is literally financial ab watched you work 12 hour shifts and stress cry over ur bank account while he was drinking and chilling on a fat severance check. Save every single text where he promised to pay you back, get screenshots of him admitting he hid the money, and take him straight to small claims court. Let his stupid friends pay his rent next month. NTJ

  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply Already on it! i took screenshots of everything last night before i finally blocked his number. his friends can enjoy paying for his beer and rent now because i am completely done. looking into small claims court right now. thank u for the validation.

  • Particular-Tailor-21 Your boyfriend is a total POS.. He's been sitting on thousands of dollars using you to pay everything knowing how much stress this is causing you.. Go to him with a written agreement on paying you back starting with at least one months rent you paid (preferably two) and half his rent each month paid monthly.. Please tell me you have it in writing that he will pay you back... Next step is court.. Edit better yet text an agreement that wat you have it in writing and he doesn't

  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply Unfortunately i dont have a formal signed contract because i trusted him blindly (lesson learned the hard way). But i do have a lot of texts from him promising to pay me back once he gets back on his feet" I also have all my bank transfer receipts. Im looking into small claims court right now. Thank u for validating this, his friends were really making me feel like i was crazy.

  • OverRice2524 Lay it all out for them. How he used you to find his lifestyle even though he got a fat severance package. Making you work overtime while he was playing games and drinking. He's a user, and you are well rid of him. If he hasn't paid you back every cent take him to small claims court. Be sure to add some on for pain and suffering.

  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply I felt like I was going crazy with his friends messaging me. I actually sent a massive text to our group chat exposing exactly what he did and how much of my savings he drained. Surprise surprise, most of them went quiet real quick. I already told him if the money isn't in my account soon, I'm taking him to small claims. I have all the bank statements and texts saved. Thank u for this.

  • j Odd_Tea4945 Absolutely NTJ and I am really, really glad you got rid of the true Hun, THE REAL SELFISH ONE IS YOUR EX!!!! He decided to have a fun time sitting on money while you worked 12 hours shifts to cover both rents. And what did he wanted to do with his money? Gert himself a A LUXURY!!!! People are guilt tripping you into believe you're the j because that dude LIED TO YOU. You're NOT "overreacting by demanding it back", because you gave it under false pretenses. If I was in your shoes I'

  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply Tysm for this. His friends were really starting to make me feel like i was going crazy. I actually spent all morning gathering screenshots of his texts where he lied about having zero money, plus all my bank transfer receipts. If the money is not in my account by friday, Im taking him to small claims court.

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  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply Reading this comment made me tear up a bit. You are so right about the lying. Now that i look back, there were other small red flags with how he handled money that i just ignored. Im already gathering all our texts where he promised to pay me back and looking into how small claims court works here. I blocked him everywhere yesterday.

  • SportySue60 NTJ what a piece of cr p! He totally seks he used you and didn't care in the least! So glad you found out now instead of wasting more time with him! Get every cent you spent and if he doesn't pay you take him to small claims court!

  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply Thank u. It just hurts so much that he could literally watch me come home exhausted from a 12 hour shift and stress cry about money, knowing he had thousands sitting in the bank. Im gathering all my receipts and bank statements today. I refuse to let him just get away with this.

  • LostTemperature5817 Never ever ever put yourself out like this for someone else again. This isn't acceptable this would never happen if he cared for your actual well-being. You should have cut him off a long time ago this is ridiculous.

  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply You are completely right. It took seeing that discord message for me to finally wake up. It makes me sick knowing he watched me work myself to the bone and did not care at all. Definitely learned my lesson the hard way.

  • Vegetable-Cod-2340 NTJ I feel like people are not focusing on the fact that this was in fact a setup from him from the beginning. 'he called in a total panic',' terrified of getting evicted' and 'not much in savings', so he called and made op think that he was broke and on the verge of eviction! That was deliberate, he knew exactly who his girlfriend was and played on that, and didn't care at all that she was stressing while he sat home with severance. Op, your ex was malicious in this situation

  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply This actually makes me feel sick to my stomach. I did not even want to think it was a setup from the start, but looking back at that panic attack he had, it felt so real. I cant believe he manipulated me like that just to get a car. Thank u for pointing this out, I feel like im finally seeing him for who he really is.

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  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply I was out there killing myself working 12 hour shifts and he was just watching me struggle while sitting on a pile of cash. Im just glad i found out the truth before we moved in together.

  • Hot-Rub-5336 F his friends. They knew what he was doing and thought it was just fine so that tells you who they are. Did he pay you back? He is a loser and a user. You are so much better without him.

  • AnybodyWorth8501 Original Poster's Reply Exactly! Looking back, they were literally drinking on my dime while i was working 12 hour shifts. and no, he has not paid me back a single cent. he actually blocked my number when i told him i was looking into small claims court. im so done with him and his trash friends.

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