23-year-old uninvites her mom from her college graduation after she demanded that she give her all of her savings: 'I don't want someone who sees me as an ATM sitting in the crowd.'

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    A young college graduate, who is content that her leech mother did not attend the ceremony.

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  • Am I the bad guy for banning my mom from my college graduation after she decided that I needed to give her all of my savings?

    Basically i'm 23 and finishing my degree soon. I've always had a rocky relationship with my mom she thinks she can control every single thing i do just because "she gave me life" or whatever.

  • The big blowout happened two days ago. i've been working part time and literally saving every cent so i can move out as soon as i graduate.

  • Well, she found one of my bank statements that i left on the kitchen table by accident and saw how much i have saved.

  • She literally just "decided" that money belongs to the family now to pay off some of her debts and fix the roof...

  • Fallen tree branches on the roof of a residential building after severe winter snow storm

    A damaged roof that cannot be repaired without the financial help of the owner's adult daughter.

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  • she said since i live under her roof its only fair that i "contribute" my entire savings account.

  • I told her no way, thats my future and my freedom and she went ballistic. Called me selfish, ungrateful, said university made me think im better than her.

  • A woman with short blonde hair and a serious expression

    An angry mom looks at her successful daughter with disgust because the daughter won't give her money.

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  • It got so heated and she screamed that if i wasnt going to help then i shouldnt expect any support from her ever again.

  • So i just snapped. I said "Fine, you're right. i dont need your support and honestly dont even bother coming to my graduation next month.

  • i dont want someone who sees me as an ATM sitting in the crowd." Now shes locking herself in her room crying and my whole family is calling me a monster.

  • My aunt says graduation is a "mothers crowning moment" and that im humiliating her publicly by banning her.

  • My roomie thinks i did the right thing setting a boundary but i feel like trash because at the end of the day she is my mom.

  • AITA for banning her from the ceremony over this?

  • oop_norf Nope, you're NTA, and it's not her moment at all, it's yours. And at this point there's no way you can trust that she won't do something to spoil it, either deliberately or just by being herself.

  • samysweety Original Poster's Reply tysm i rly needed to hear that. i was starting to think i was crazy or something?? like i literally worked so hard for my degree and she just sees $$$ signs. if i let her go she'll probably just make a scene about the money again or act like a martyr in front of everyone... my aunt keeps. blowing up my phone but she doesnt get it. thx for the reality check srsly.

  • Ambroisie_Cy NTA Make sure your account is secure and you are not using a password she could guess (like your birthday!) Your mother is emotionnally and financially manipulating you. Don't give in.

  • gridface-princess NTA. Your mom is humiliating herself by throwing this toddler tantrum over your money. This is a sign you need to leave ASAP. Seeing how dramatic she is here, I wouldn't be surprised if she made a scene at your graduation. Your aunt is completely wrong too. Graduation is your crowning moment. Your mom didn't go to school for you, you did that. She doesn't deserve to be anywhere near your graduation.

  • Legal Celebration_62 NTA. You mom had no right to demand your savings. You have every right to deny her the privilege of seeing you gradute

  • concernedreader 1982 NTA This isn't a parents "crowning" moment. You put in the work, you chose to take this path, you put yourself through school, worked, did the studies, and passed. This is YOUR crowning moment. If she is going to be so disrespectful about money, she doesn't get to come, plain and simple. Maybe you should tell your aunt your mom owes you an apology.

  • Youllfloattew NTA. She will definitely make a scene before, during or after. You need people around you who support you. If she wanted you to contribute while living there and working, she should have said something from the beginning. She's not entitled to your savings and her audacity is astounding.

  • uTop-Artichoke5020 NTA in any way. I will never understand parents who demand money from their children. You've earned and saved every cent to be able to become independent. We strive to raise our children to live successful lives, independent of us. You are on your way to doing that! Good for you! Your graduation is YOUR achievement, not your mother's. Your aunt needs to mind her own business! With the way your mother is behaving, I wouldn't trust her in the parking lot of the graduation venue.

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